Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Accidentally Innocent?

Soon after I quit my job in Deloitte to do something more meaningful and tangible, I was approached by a Principal of a small English medium school for the underprivileged, seeking my help with the teaching and administration.

I feel blessed for the moment I decided to visit the school. A school run inside a temple - with the students of two classes being taught in one room. A school that provides education for students of classes Nursery - 4th in English. I was asked to take care of the 4th grade.

I requested for some space in the room which served as the Principal's office and the staff room/meeting room so that I can teach my students separately. To my surprise, there were only 4 students in 4th grade - Simran, Gungun, Ankush and Vaibhav. Remaining students had dropped out from the school for their own reasons. I was asked to teach all the subjects. As the students looked at me excitedly, a bit shy initially they managed to tell me their names in English and asked my name too - which they found really sweet but difficult to remember. On the first day, I taught them to introduce themselves when they meet someone new. With equal number of boys and girls I was only impressed by the sex ratio.

Challenging as it was, I had to begin from scratch to teach them English. I have had my share of tough days with them. After two classes with them I was sure I would develop a lot of patience if nothing more! I had to repeatedly teach them everything and tried all combinations of innovation that would leave impressions on their minds about the lessons they were taught. I realized they were willing to study but they didn't have the option to study at their will, they had other household commitments to take care of. I spend around 6-7 hours with them everyday (3.5 hours in school and roughly 3 hours of tuition at my place). With time, four of them got frank with me and started confiding in me. And I learnt the following about them:

Simran - The most sincere and hard working of all. Lives with her mother who earns Rs. 1500 per month by working in the local Gurudwara. When asked her about her father she replied with a broad smile on her face - "Woh toh guzar gaye do saal pehle beemari se" (He passed away two years ago because of some disease). The innocence with which she told me this made me doubt if she even understood what that meant. And wait, 1500 a month? How is it even possible to manage in that little sum of money? Once when I sat next to her for lunch, she shared that she knows how to cook and she washes the clothes at home. Her exact words were - "Main duniya bhar ke kapde dho sakti hun, mujhe aadat hai" (I can wash the clothes of the world, I'm used to washing clothes"). I then looked at those little dry hands and had my answers.

Vaibhav - The shortest in height and has a radiant smile. He belongs to a very poor family with both his parents working as daily wage workers. When he comes for tuition at my place, he informs his neighbours as there's no one at home for most of the time. I scold him and he smiles back showing all his teeth to me. If I miss school some day, he will be the first one to ask for the reason why I missed it. Of all the kids, I think he is the most attached to me. His elder brother passed away and I'm sure he misses him. He has a good handwriting but writes slowly. He loves solving maths. He might have to solve a question a lot of times before he gets it right but he never loses his smile.

Ankush - A sharp child with a very good presence of mind. He acts moody at times, gets irritated if he doesn't understand anything in the first go. His mother says he talks a lot about me at home. He hasn't got a very good handwriting and is always in a hurry to finish his work. He draws really well and also makes idols using clay. His father is a tailor and doesn't spend a lot of time with him.

Gungun - A thin talkative girl who doesn't want to study. By her talking content I feel she has grown mature too early. Her father is an auto driver and her mother a housemaker. She has resorted to cheating, skipping school to avoid test, and avoiding tuitions. She likes me but she doesn't put any effort in studying. I've tried asking her if she has some other interest but she refuses. May be she will take her time and I want to keep trying.

After school everyday, all four of them hug me and shake hands with me to wish goodbye. Once, I asked them to complete their work fast as I was getting late to leave for home and Vaibhav whispered - "Dheere karo, teacher zyada der rukengi" (Work slowly so that the teacher stays longer)! I feel really blessed to experience such innocent love.

Other than teaching them their subjects I keep trying to teach them basic things. The one they've picked up really well is saying "God bless you" when someone sneezes. So, the usual scene in class now is - I'm teaching in an all serious mood and someone somewhere sneezes and all of them say "God bless you" in a chorus with their eyes searching for the one who sneezed! In tuition one day, Vaibhav told me he has taught it to all his friends in 2nd and 3rd grade as well :D

Talking of tuition at home, it started with teaching only four of my students but I was then contacted by other parents who wanted to send their children as well. Now, we (I had to pull my mother in too!) teach 12 students from Nursery to 7th Std everyday at home. As the clock strikes 2:30 pm, I stand right at the door waiting for the students to come home. They study, and then play in the lawn after completing their work. I play with them at times too! All my students get flowers for me everyday and while leaving for home Simran and Vaibhav wish me good evening and good night asking me to remember them before sleeping at night! They are so particular that once Vaibhav hugged me after tuition and told me that he thinks I don't think of them before sleeping and asked me to promise him that I do it from now!

Recently we conducted the Annual function at school. I wanted to address the parents but because we were all tied up with the dances, songs and speeches, I didn't insist. To my surprise, on the day of the function, I was honoured for serving the school. The school gifted me with a hand-made painting (which is extremely beautiful)! I was overwhelmed by the gesture. I was asked to speak and I spoke few of the things I had on my mind. I had a broad smile throughout the function! That day (31st Jan) has to be one of the happiest days of my life! By the way, due to my interest in clicking pictures, I have covered the entire event with my camera.


I've received message of appreciation from friends and relatives and I feel very blessed. But there are other people who deserve much more than appreciation! The Principal of the school -Mrs. Meena Mahato - a temporary labourer's wife has been running this school for 15 years! She doesn't earn anything much out of it. She isn't educated enough too. But, she tries her best to impart education. Her husband is an art painter who would be earning Rs. 10,000 per month roughly. They have three kids who were born after 15 years of their marriage - Riddhi, Siddhi (the twin sisters) and Piyank. Meena Ma'am is a true inspiration. She doesn't have much to offer but she is giving back to the society as much as she can with the only motive of helping others! I salute her for all her efforts straight from my heart!

Riddhi-Siddhi are the cutest 1st graders I've come across! My mom teaches them and Riddhi is really fond of her while Siddhi says she likes me more :D


I can see the positivity all these little angels have gifted me with. Whenever I feel low now, all I have to do is to try to smile like Vaibhav (and it really works) or recall how Simran, Ankush and Gungun start laughing without any reason. These small wonders have a lot more pain in their lives than any of us but they SMILE and they do it all the time! Happiness to them is answering in class, being praised, getting extra time to play and talking and playing with me. A smile on their face because of me makes me feel really happy and satisfied.

Most of my friends have called up to tell me what I am doing right now is something they've always wanted to do! To all those who want to help the less privileged, please do it NOW! I guarantee it will be a life changing experience and there's so much you'll learn about life. We shall then discuss how it felt when you know you caused a difference to someone's life :)















Thursday, June 21, 2012


Just when you start believing everything around is so beautiful, you are reminded by some way or the other that life is not all that flowery.

The day wasn’t very easy.  I had already faced my share of tensions and sadness. In spite of everything, I was happy and content just because I am with my family.
Dad asked me to prepare tea while he was almost ready to go to his office, after lunch. There I was in the kitchen, trying my best to prepare the best tea for my daddy by adding everything possible- ginger, saunf, elaichi and laung. It took me longer than the usual time to prepare it for I had to make sure that he gets the flavor of all the ingredients.

I offered him tea and left the room for few minutes. On returning in the room, I excitedly asked, “how was the tea, daddy?” and he was busy on his phone so he dint respond. Just then mom told me dad hadn’t tasted it because some employee was stuck in the Bombay Secretariat fire. I dint have any clue about the fire till then! We were all clinged to the news channel.  There were two employees (of the company dad works in) stuck in the fire on 6th floor, one a civil engineer of our unit and another a colleague of some other unit. The fire was caught on 4th floor and it was fast approaching the 6th floor. Many people got unconscious because of the smoke. Just then, one of the employees who was stuck rang my dad and said,” Sir dua ki jiye ham yahan se bach ke nikal jayein”(Sir, pray that we get out of here alive)! All of us were praying to God every moment.

The way the building was being destroyed in fire, all of us were scared to the nerves.  It was dreadful.  I heard dad say, “I had to attend this meeting, I cancelled my program at the last moment”. I wanted to move from my place and go hug daddy as tightly as I could but I couldn’t move and I just thanked God, praying for the employees stuck more intensely now!

I had heard and watched such news before too but never before someone I knew was stuck inside. This time I knew both the employees, I had met them and talked to them too! It felt as if my brain started revising all the moments I had shared with them. All this while, my dad tried calling them but they weren’t answering the call.  He could connect to the number but no one was answering. We assumed they might have got unconscious. We got more scared. I started criticizing the infrastructure because I could see no fire escape ladder in the building and the news channel showed people standing on the windows asking for help. If only there were fire escape stairs, people could have been easily saved!

I kept saying “shit” with every scene I watched on the news and kept thinking of how uncertain life is! What would their families be feeling like! What will happen next! Who will inform us about the employees stuck!

Just then one of the employees CALLED! Dad answered the phone and he could hardy hear the voice. The voice on the other side wasn’t clear, the person was stumbling. All dad could hear was,  “Sir main bach gaya “(I have been saved). Dad said Thank God with tears in his eyes! He asked if the other employee had been saved too. He had been. But his legs might have got fractured because they had to jump down! But how did that matter. Their life was what mattered! He said they were the last ones who could be saved! If there was a delay of even a minute, they wouldn’t have made it, the people behind them couldn’t be rescued!

All of us had tears in our eyes thanking God every moment!

Since then I’ve been wondering we tend to take everything in life for granted. We leave things for the future to decide. We know what we are supposed to do but we act weirdly. We complain more than being thankful for all that we are blessed with. And trust me ALL of us do this.

Life can be so simple, so lovely if WE make it! We have to learn to forgive and let go. We have to stop complaining and start being thankful. We have to start living it before its too late! We have to be good to each other and enjoy every moment with each other. Never know what life has to offer us in the next moment, just try to live the present moment.